Turning up late. Avoiding the bill. Passing out at the table and into your tiramisu. They’re all signs of a bad date. But if there’s one trait that will kill any chance of a second date, it has to be the incessant ranting about an ex.
We’ve all been there. Hopefully as the rant receiver, not the ranter – or the ranted about. There’s always the date who isn’t quite over their ex and thinks you want to hear about it. Like you will counsel them through it over dinner. No thanks.
Well, the same goes for jobs.
If you’re interviewing for a job, it’s more than likely you’ve got some gripes about your last role. That’s natural. The trick is to leave that baggage at the door. No one wants to hear it. And your reaction to it will say more about you than it does about your previous employer.
You will inevitably get asked the question, “why did you leave your last role?” When asked, don’t stare at the wall. Or smile blankly and say you are just looking for a new opportunity. Or turn and run.
Be honest but balanced in your answer. When put correctly, pinpointing the reasons you are moving on demonstrates what you value and are looking for in your next role.
Then, move on. Find out more about your new prospect and how you might be right for them. Be the energy that upholds other people and yourself.
And you never know, you might get past tiramisu.